Adults often talk too much and our youth tune out. A silent signal speaks louder than words. Smile and point to the shoes that need to be picked up; use a consistent signal or sound that quiets a room; when you feel upset, put your hand on your heart to show youth that you care and then begin the conversation. When silent signals are not enough, use one word only, “dishes,” “bedtime,” “homework,” “forgive,” “hugs,” etc. to avoid lecturing.